Unchangeable Truths
The older I get, the more I’ve come to realize that tears are often the most honest response to reality. They arise when we meet the truths we cannot change—loss, grief, the unmovable weight of ‘what is.’ And yet, this surrender to reality isn’t weakness; it’s clarity. There’s something bright in the part of us that can accept what we cannot control.
Being comfortable with the reality of our lives, as they are, and embracing the lessons right in front of us—that’s what it means to be present. That’s pretty much yoga. A yogi (in my reality yogi is the person dedicated to live with awareness, integrity, and connection to both the inner and outer worlds - which is simply how we all should be, with or without practicing yoga) works with the now, not with what they think should be.
This summer i welcomed the Bhagavad Gita to my life one more time. In the Bhagavad Gita, Prince Arjuna wrestles with his role in the great battle of Kurukshetra. Lord Krishna’s wisdom to him is profound: a yogi works with the truth of their circumstances. You don’t reject the physical body or wish it away. You understand it, move with it, breathe with it. You meet yourself where you are and build from there.
This week, as I began my journey into Buddhist dharma training and immersed myself in the practice of Qi Gong—the YiJin Jing series—some profound truths struck me deeply. “Nothing we are forced into is freedom,” and “Anywhere we don’t want to be is a prison.” These teachings echoed through every breath and movement, reminding me how much our suffering stems from resistance. Freedom, I’m learning, is not about escaping but about being fully present, working with what is. Even the word kung fu itself translates to time and effort, a reminder that mastery comes from showing up—again and again—with intention and patience.
This time of year often brings that sharp tension between where we think we should be and where we are. But karma doesn’t unravel by ignoring the tasks right in front of us. In fact, overthinking the big picture can distract us from what actually matters—the present moment, the work at hand!
Here’s the truth: when we handle the small picture—the here and now—with care and commitment, the bigger picture unfolds naturally. The divine isn’t found in wishing things were different. It’s found in the reality of what is, as it is.
Think about the people you’ve met who accept life as it comes. There’s a lightness to them, even in sorrow—a clarity, a freedom. They know that fighting against reality doesn’t bring more out of life, nor does it bring more out of ourselves. But acceptance doesn’t mean passivity. You don’t transcend karma by halfheartedly living your reality. Once you embrace where you are, you must meet it with full devotion. Ask yourself: Am I committed? Am I conscious? Am I serving well?
Because when we serve well, we aren’t just serving ourselves; we’re serving the divine within. So live your life fully, as it is, and let it teach you. Release the picture of what it’s supposed to be and find the sacred in what already is.
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